Long-distance relationships Relationships aren’t easy at the best of times. You argue and get annoyed by little things. But all that only makes you stronger. Long-distance relationships are far more difficult, however, because you don’t see enough of each other to argue or get annoyed by little things. When you go to a university far away from your partner, things can get complicated. But even though it’s complicated, that doesn’t mean you should give up. It is possible to have a long-distance relationship that works. Here are some tips to help you manage your long-distance relationship. 1. Acknowledge that it’s going to be difficult To start with, you can’t think you and your partner are above the issues that come with a long-distance relationship. There are going to be hard times and you’re going to need to deal with those. You’re going to miss each other and there are going to be days where you want nothing more than to see their face but can’t. 2. Set boundaries and plans Sit down together before you leave and plan what’s going to happen during the months you’re away. When will you Skype each other? What days will you talk on the phone and when is it okay to message each other. Constant communication isn’t always a good thing because you still have to lead your own lives. You can’t always pick up your phone when they need you.   3. Make an effort to keep up to date on each other’s lives During all your late night phone calls and Skype sessions, you’re going to tell each other all about your lives. It’s important you remember the names of their classmates, which lecturers they love and what pub they like to drink at. Since you can’t be part of their life physically, you should at least be able to imagine what’s going on. 4. When you are together, make it count When you go home to visit, make sure you spend that time together wisely. Some couples think it’s a great idea to go on holiday when they get the chance to be with one another. But that’s not always the case. You also need to go on with your day-to-day lives, whether that means shopping for used cars in Gauteng or having Sunday lunch at their parents’ house. Your relationship is not a holiday fling so you shouldn’t treat it like one. Image: Pexels