Should you end the friendship In your late teens and early 20s, who you choose to be friends with is incredibly important. These are the years where you start to learn who you really are. Good friends will help nurture the best parts of your personality and make you feel comfortable in your own skin. They’ll build you up and support you as you grow. Bad friends, on the other hand, can do quite a bit of damage. They have the ability to tear down your self-esteem and make you feel insecure. If you feel you may have a friend in your life that does more harm than good, ask yourself these questions and decide if they need to go. Are they needlessly critical? There’s the friend who tells you to change your top when you ask how you look. That’s the kind of friend you want around to give you their honest opinion. Then there’s the friend who’ll make nasty comments about your top the rest of the evening. Friends who constantly make jokes at your expense are not trying to get you to laugh, they’re trying to make you second guess yourself. Maybe they don’t even know they’re doing it, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s harmful. Is their attitude constantly negative? Misery loves company. And, chances are, someone who is constantly in a horrible mood and sees everything in a negative light will try to drag you down to their level. There’s a difference between someone who is in a bad place in their life and someone who just wants to moan about every little thing. It doesn’t mean they’re a horrible person. They just aren’t adding any value to your life. Do you really want to have dinner with someone who complains about everything from the menu and the waitron to the food? Spending time with someone like this will leave you feeling just as bleak as they claim to be.   Are they emotionally draining? Do they need you 24/7? Do they sulk when you hang out with other friends? Do they need constant reassurance that you care about them? All friends need each other at certain times, but this kind of friend needs you all the time. From the big moments in their life to the new fad diet they’ve started, you have to be there for them. Which would be okay if they were there for you. But they aren’t. It’s a one-sided friendship where you give everything and they just take. At the end of day, you want friends who are going to support you when it matters. You want friends who are going to build up your confidence. You want friends you can sit and laugh for hours while simply chilling on your lounge suites, watching series. Image: Pexels

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